3 Weird, Yet Effective Ways to Deal With Anxiety

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You've probably heard of anxiety countless times. Arguably, it's something that's common today – considering how tough things are currently with the pandemic. This might explain the unusual global drive towards mental health.

With that in mind, anxiety isn't just reserved for that charming coy girl on her first date, that young man trying to pursue independence and put his life in order, or a corporate professional seeking to map out their retirement plans. No matter how talented, rich or happy you think you are, there's a good chance that you've at some point battled anxiety.

Meaning and Symptoms of Anxiety

Essentially, anxiety is an intense emotional feeling that's characterized by worry, tension, and physical changes like high blood pressure. Some of its symptoms include restlessness, heightened irritability, uncontrollable worry, concentration difficulties, and sleep difficulties. Whether it's in your workplace, school setting, or family, anxiety has a way of creeping into your space. But don't falter.

Here are some unusual, yet highly effective ways to handle anxiety:

Guess what?

One of the hardest things to do is accept your situation as it is. Sure, you might be going through unimaginable turmoil and intense stress. You're even probably just seeking a surefire way out of the troubles but just don't know how best to go about it. What if finding a lasting solution won't come overnight? Maybe the first step towards finding freedom is first of all acknowledging your situation as it is – then working your way up from that standpoint.

“Most people own many things, but themselves and their situations.” Anonymous

If for instance, you have a huge pile of work, you're hands down sure that you won't beat the deadline, and you're worried that you'll be eventually fired, your feelings are totally justified. But just pause for a moment and ponder. What would be the worst thing that can happen if you don't complete your tasks? Getting fired and losing money to take care of yourself and your family, or being insulted by your annoying boss?

Good news: the first resource that you have is you. The fact that you're working means that you're the ultimate resource. You shouldn't give in to such limiting beliefs. Vusi Thembekwayo, an acclaimed business mogul and global speaker says that one of the things that can help propel you forward is facing your fears. In his masterclasses, he engages aspiring and budding entrepreneurs seeking to try out something new but grappling with fear. He asks them some rigorous " now-what” questions.

He plies the learners with a series of questions on how the worst-case scenarios would turn out if they face their worst fears. The common realization is that after a few "now whats", people face their fears at the core. For instance, you might be working your hands off, barely spending time with your family, and reeling under excruciating anxiety because you're afraid of being poor.

One of the solutions may be getting a job or side hustle that pays less but sustains you and gives you time to spend time with your friends and family, while still offering high growth potential. Sure, you might make some sacrifices and pay the price. But there's a good chance that things won't be as bad as they seem. A tough reality is that your own thoughts might be causing your anxiety.

2. Not Doing Anything About it

Sounds weird?

Here's the thing: this doesn't mean that you should completely switch off of life and recline to the fickle hands of fate. Resting is a great, yet paradoxical way of fighting anxiety. Some of the most effective ways of resting include having enough sleep or spending some time alone with your thoughts. Alternatively, you can also engage in hobbies that can get you all fired up and re-energized.

Resting gives you an opportunity to think things through and figure out some ideas to help you break free from your current situation so that you'll eventually be free. Arianna Huffington, the founder of Thrive Global, a top tech company that aims to improve the health and wellness of individuals, is a persuasive testament to this. She used to work consistently, neglecting self-care and barely spending time relaxing. Consequently, one day she lost control, collapsed, and broke her cheekbone as a result of burnout.

She then wrote a book entitled: " The Sleep Revolution" where she argues that it's important to sleep for at least 7 hours and spend the remaining wake hours working. Her views have met sharp criticisms as much as praises. Long story short, remember that rest offers much in the way of keeping anxiety at bay.

3. Stop Comparing Yourself to Others.

You might be wondering: " What the heck has "not comparing myself with others" have to do with anxiety? Well, it has a lot to do with anxiety. Much of our lives are spent comparing ourselves with others in careers, education, and business. Competition analysis, speed, and outworking others seems to be hugely embraced in today's world.

But don't get me wrong.

While keeping a score of your progress and peering into other people’s spaces is important, this should be done with utmost sobriety and control. In the grand scheme of things, we’re all unique in our own way. We’re intrinsically gifted, and beautifully different – which is why scientists agree that every human out of the over 7 billion global population is unique.

More so, we all have different experiences, thought patterns, mental abilities, knowledge, and upbringings among a whole horde of other factors. So, regardless of how you think other people are progressing and getting anxious and fed up about it, think deeper. Maybe if you were to get into their shoes, drift back to history and work your way up to their position, you'd probably resist it.

Relax, you're just where you should be. At least, you tried your best in the past with the knowledge you had gathered all the way to that point. The best time to plant a tree was 25 years ago. The second best time is now. So, just start out and keep going. If you run at your pace, you can easily unleash your creativity more and move at a faster rate.

"Sometimes we assume that our competitors are far smarter than we are, better informed and harder working. And sometimes we assume that they're clueless, lazy, and hapless. Neither is true." Seth Godin

I'm Rooting for You

Thanks for reading all the way to this point. But there's much more to this than just reading. Give these thoughts a chance, and try applying them in real life. You'll be fine.

Marco Derhy’s book: “ Heroes Of The Opioid Crisis,” also discusses anxiety as one of the major issues related to the Opioid Crisis. In the book, he engages heroes fighting the Opioid Crisis on topics such as anxiety and how this can be overcome.

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Peter Mbayaki

Peter Mbayaki

Peter Mbayaki is a freelance writer,content strategist, aspiring entrepreneur and traveler. www.petermbayaki.com