Stop Trying to Get Your Act Together. Do This Instead
In one way or another, everyone is broken.
Don’t believe me? Well, here’s the catch: if you’ve ever been sad, then it means you experienced some disappointments or challenges which means life didn’t match your expectations, and that’s what I imply by broken.
And today’s social media age can exacerbate issues since most people seek to put out their A-game out there — while secretly, and fearfully hiding their worst faults deep inside the recesses of their disappointments, failures, and anxiety.
Here’s the thing: since most of us have struggled at some point, we always try to have our act together. Whether it’s trying to stop an addiction, accelerate your career, complete your education or become a better version of yourself, it’s something we all strive to do.
But what if I told you that trying to get your act together isn’t the solution to your woes? Are you struggling with getting your act together? Don’t falter.
Just stop trying to get your act together and do these three things instead:
- Own your dirt first
There’s nothing as difficult as owning up to your mistakes and taking responsibility for them. Come to think of it: you hate remembering the worst things you did before, right. Sure, it’s painful to keep replaying such past happenings in your mind.
However, you can’t drift back to the past — but you can do something about the present and the future. So, just focus on that. You should also forgive yourself for your past wrongdoings. We’re all human after all, and capable of making mistakes. Even your greatest role model might be struggling with his or her underlying, yet unknown issues.
You messed up because you didn’t know better or just acted out of impulse. But the good news is: you have a shot at making things better. It’s no easy task, but if you commit to loving yourself, you’ll begin growing. In all reality, you can’t do this fully, but you can start out slowly by moving the needle, and things will unfold as you go along.
- Stop trying to change your life just based on other people’s opinions
Everybody has opinions about nearly everything they know. You even have an opinion about this piece. Remember, whether you do something good or bad, people will always have something to say about you. And sometimes, the worst judgemental remarks come out of the people close to us whom we hold so dear.
But since they’re also dealing with their issues regardless of the fact that they question your past or even what you do now, keep in mind that you have the power to cause your mental shift and channel your energies to yourself.
But remember: don’t be closed off to other people’s opinions. You can use them as a lens through which you can see yourself in a different light. You don’t know yourself as well as you think. So, just keep filtering what you hear from others, discard negative remarks and you can consider putting the positive gems of wisdom into practice.
Wield your extensive power by filtering other people’s opinions carefully, then pick out the right ones for you, and gracefully ignore the rest.
The one thing that I find absurd though is how some people judge others straight out for their actions — without trying to understand the underlying triggers of the issues. In all reality though, just be sure to gather as many helpful ideas and opinions that’ll help you grow.
- Start your life-changing journey, not a destination
Do you know what the greatest lie is?
The faulty, deceptive lie is that one day, all your problems will finally end once you hit your goals, or have your act together. If that’s true, why is it that some people who have lots of money with amazing relationships still end up depressed?
Well, it’s because you can’t really put everything in order. Usually, stability is found somewhere in between chaos and order. Even your life works like that. If you have a career, for instance, you’ll juggle between work, family, personal relationships, entertainment, etc.
You see…you’re even a genius for living such a complex life. All you have to do is just to lean more towards order than chaos so that things can work better for you — and that’s how to try getting your act together.
Renowned psychologist Jordan Peterson argues that while trying to get better, you should pause and think of that one stupid thing you are doing that’s jeopardizing your life. Then, once you identify it you start working on it, and you’ll definitely get better. Start out small, build up and you’ll make huge leaps. But while trying to put your life in order, keep in mind that everything won’t eventually turn out perfectly but things will get better. It’s a journey.
“While trying to put your life in order, keep in mind that everything won’t eventually turn out perfectly, but things will get better. It’s a journey — not a destination.”
Let’s Explore the Transformative Journey Together
Ready to improve your life? It’s time to load deep because the journey is far. And your odds of making it are undoubtedly high if you’ve read all the way to this point. We’re working as a team. Just put these tips into practice. You’ll ace it!